Benefits and pitfalls of a SOLO Traveller: India has spoken

Here I am again, after skipping few weeks and trying to rearrange the schedule of when to post.

I started writing this post when I was back in Jaipur, and I’m pubblishing it from Italy.

After visiting the magnificent Taj Mahal, in Agra, I went to the Holy City of Varanasi.

Varanasi is the city of Shiva, the God of Destruction.

I got there during the Shiva festival when millions of Hindus were reaching the city by walking and ending their pilgrimage with a bath in the sacred water of the Ganga River. This is a big ceremony every evening.

The most impressive thing, though that I have seen is Manikarnika, the burning Ghat.

This is the place where for 24 hours every day, Hindus can cremate their beloved ones so that the ashes can be offered to the Ganga River.

There is a fire that has been burning for 3000 years, so family members take a flame and then start their own fire. To avoid bad smell, sandal wood is used amongst standard wood.

Seeing it, of course makes you reflect upon death and in my case loneliness too.

Most people who know me, they know that I love travelling on my own.

I came up with a quote a while ago:

“Holidays are with friends, Travelling is on your own”.

So I would like to share some of the benefits, and will also talk about some of the pitfalls that I have faced during my trip to India.

First and foremost, you do what ever you want.

No negotiations when deciding which places to see, no need to try to make everyone happy.

You visit what you fancy and at your own pace.

You are forced to talk with other people, so you end up meeting so many people.

You push yourself to the limit and once you go past your own limits you will never be the same person.

What are the pitfalls then?

You need to be extra vigilant around where you go, how you go and especially with who you go.

Crossing the street, choosing the street, catching a train, boarding a bus, talking to a stranger, asking directions, taking a TukTuk, buying an excursion, at every turn you need to keep your eyes wide open to avoid unpleasant situations.

When you are on your own, every decision is at least twice as harder than if you are with others.

Every decision you make falls on you. During the decision-making process there is no one to talk to for some reassurance.

It’s just you and your emotions.

It’s the same for any other situation.

When your feelings hit you, it’s just you.

So, without even asking, India has spoken.

After so many years of learning how to be on my own, I figured out that you can be with others as long as you select carefully those around you.

Quoting the amazing movie “Into the Wild”

  • “Happiness is real only when is shared”

So I will never be a big fan of large groups of people, but 4 to 6 people is a good number.

Choose people who share the same interest and try to make a plan prior to the trip.

So what do you think, are you a solo traveller or a group traveller?

Have you tried to travel on your own?

Share your tips !!!!!!!!!!

2 thoughts on “Benefits and pitfalls of a SOLO Traveller: India has spoken

  1. Ciao Fra!! Always nice to read you! I’m a solo traveler. Yes it can be difficult, as a woman as a man no exceptions, but can be harder in company. I think everyone should try a solo travel, it’s a mind and soul opening. My quote is ‘when you travel alone you are never alone’, you have more chances to meet not only other travelers but locals and dive with them into their culture and daily life


    1. Thanks Antonella – this is a great contribution and I could not agree more with the soul opening experience and the fact that you mix more with the locals.


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